Dear Juno, Or Any Other Pregnant Teenager in the Same Situation,
First I would like to say that I am very impressed and I honor the decision you made to give this child up for adoption to a family who truly deserved it. Adoption isn’t an easy thing to go through. During the pregnancy you carry this baby and you protect it. You feel it move and I would think that one would form a strong bond with the child they are carrying. But you knew that you weren't ready to be a mom and you made a really hard but honorable decision.
Although the adoption didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to be (in a stable two parent household) there is no doubt that Vanessa is going to be a good mother. She is going to love that child with everything she’s got and you were able to give that gift. What a blessing. You should feel proud that you were able to fill her with that joy and happiness that she was longing for.
I would also like to bring up the topic of abortion. It a very touchy topic but I feel that it needs to be addressed. When your step mother asked you if you considered the other option you said no right away. Thank you for doing that. You decided to bring a life into the world and not take it away. Now I am not judging anyone who has had or plans to have an abortion because a woman has the right to choose and is protected under the 14th amendment with their right for privacy. But abortion isn’t something I agree with, there are so many families that are trying so hard to have a child and they can't. So why would you or anyone else decided to take away a life that someone else would take in with open arms. I think it’s selfish that a woman would do that. Now I know that I’ll get a lot of heat for saying that but it’s true. There are so many families; so many couples who would willingly take that child in and just like Vanessa did with Juno pay for all the medical bills because they want that child so badly.
Now if I were ever in this kind of situation I would never even think about getting my child aborted, nor do I think that I would be able to give my child up for adoption. I am a person who loves with their whole heart and with everything that they've got. And I think that during those nine months I would build an intimate and strong bond with the little person that is growing within me. I know it would be hard to be 18 and be a mother and try to go to school at the same time, but I also know that it’s not impossible. If anything it would encourage me to work harder so that I could give my child the best of me and all that they want. I know my mom wouldn’t be happy because she was my age when she had me and she would be heartbroken but she would not hesitate to help me. She would welcome that child with open arms and shower it with as much love as I would.
Now Juno as much as I honor and respect your decision to give that child up for adoption I would like to bring up that fact that I think that it’s so dumb that you had sex just because you were bored. That is so stupid. Not only did you have sex just because you were bored but it was your first time. Didn’t you know that your virginity is a precious gift that you shouldn’t just hand out? It’s something that you give to the person you love with your whole heart showing them (hopefully your husband) that you saved yourself for them. That no one else in the world gets to have, it’s a beautiful gift. Ladies and Gentlemen please understand that. Sex is an intimate action that binds two into one. So be smart about who you are willing to give that to. And if you do decide to have sex before marriage be smart about it and use protection.
And hopefully when you are in a stable relationship with a steady income you will be old enough and wise enough to talk to your partner about bringing a child into the world. That is the best way to go about bring a new life to the world.
I wish you all the best Juno and anyone else who is reading this. I hope that your life is filled with an abundance of blessings. You are a wonderful person no matter what mistakes you may have made. You are the best you, you can be!
First I would like to say that I am very impressed and I honor the decision you made to give this child up for adoption to a family who truly deserved it. Adoption isn’t an easy thing to go through. During the pregnancy you carry this baby and you protect it. You feel it move and I would think that one would form a strong bond with the child they are carrying. But you knew that you weren't ready to be a mom and you made a really hard but honorable decision.
Although the adoption didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to be (in a stable two parent household) there is no doubt that Vanessa is going to be a good mother. She is going to love that child with everything she’s got and you were able to give that gift. What a blessing. You should feel proud that you were able to fill her with that joy and happiness that she was longing for.
I would also like to bring up the topic of abortion. It a very touchy topic but I feel that it needs to be addressed. When your step mother asked you if you considered the other option you said no right away. Thank you for doing that. You decided to bring a life into the world and not take it away. Now I am not judging anyone who has had or plans to have an abortion because a woman has the right to choose and is protected under the 14th amendment with their right for privacy. But abortion isn’t something I agree with, there are so many families that are trying so hard to have a child and they can't. So why would you or anyone else decided to take away a life that someone else would take in with open arms. I think it’s selfish that a woman would do that. Now I know that I’ll get a lot of heat for saying that but it’s true. There are so many families; so many couples who would willingly take that child in and just like Vanessa did with Juno pay for all the medical bills because they want that child so badly.
Now if I were ever in this kind of situation I would never even think about getting my child aborted, nor do I think that I would be able to give my child up for adoption. I am a person who loves with their whole heart and with everything that they've got. And I think that during those nine months I would build an intimate and strong bond with the little person that is growing within me. I know it would be hard to be 18 and be a mother and try to go to school at the same time, but I also know that it’s not impossible. If anything it would encourage me to work harder so that I could give my child the best of me and all that they want. I know my mom wouldn’t be happy because she was my age when she had me and she would be heartbroken but she would not hesitate to help me. She would welcome that child with open arms and shower it with as much love as I would.
Now Juno as much as I honor and respect your decision to give that child up for adoption I would like to bring up that fact that I think that it’s so dumb that you had sex just because you were bored. That is so stupid. Not only did you have sex just because you were bored but it was your first time. Didn’t you know that your virginity is a precious gift that you shouldn’t just hand out? It’s something that you give to the person you love with your whole heart showing them (hopefully your husband) that you saved yourself for them. That no one else in the world gets to have, it’s a beautiful gift. Ladies and Gentlemen please understand that. Sex is an intimate action that binds two into one. So be smart about who you are willing to give that to. And if you do decide to have sex before marriage be smart about it and use protection.
And hopefully when you are in a stable relationship with a steady income you will be old enough and wise enough to talk to your partner about bringing a child into the world. That is the best way to go about bring a new life to the world.
I wish you all the best Juno and anyone else who is reading this. I hope that your life is filled with an abundance of blessings. You are a wonderful person no matter what mistakes you may have made. You are the best you, you can be!
Blessings,
Elianna